Love is not getting – it is Giving.

Hand and heart

 

Love is like a resonance in being.

Love is spontaneously expressing without any need of the intellect.

The love that most folk talk about can flip to hate in a second….it is dualistic, a form of slavery to images and ideas, needs and an appetite for intimate pleasure.  All of it is appearing to serve an imaginary entity, me.

Once we get the intimacy we long for, we put limitations upon that which appears to be the object of desire.  We squeeze the living daylights out of it because we don’t want anyone to steal it away…. and so we torture ourselves and the ‘other’ with limitations based on our own insecurities. Eventually the loved one wants to escape and the drama increases to fever pitch.

The insecurities are due to the image of self being an unreal ‘thing’. Convoluted patterns emerge and a solution appears to be an impossible outcome.  For whom?  For me!  

So it is that love gets trampled upon and suffering rises up as a constant companion, simply because we do not investigate the limited concepts we use to define ourselves, our beloved and everything else.

Ring any bells?  Any recognition of mechanical patterns coming up?

People talk about ‘falling in love’ and it is more like falling under the influence of chemical responses in the brain. It lasts for a while and then changes.

Love addiction is simply a ‘wanting more’.

Love is a giving, not a needy parasite.

 

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Sometimes the decks have to be cleared. The erroneous beliefs have to be challenged and decimated or the patterns of belief just keep on reappearing.  Belief in them is the culprit.

If you won’t do it for yourself, Life itself will step in (as it surely does) and the image of self is found to be wanting.  What are you without words?

The word ‘love’ is probably the most misunderstood word of all words.  The word is misused, trampled upon, abused and the lowest form….an excuse for extraordinarily bad behaviour.  

One insult can flip the card and reveal something ugly, where moments before a facade of love was parading like a peacock.

You cannot get to non duality from duality.  

Love of being, loving to be, is the ‘way of resonance’ with what actually is, not with what I might want it to be or not be.

Being is.  Becoming is imagination and nothing more.

 

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The very notion of being a teacher (or guru) cannot gain any ground in my so-called mind.

The energy of belief gets stopped immediately.
Truth or reality is so clearly obvious, no falsehood can encroach upon that.
Even the idea that ‘I am liberated’ or ‘enlightened’ can’t survive for more than a second, if that.
It is not that I reject those ideas. The clarity of present evidence overthrows all notions about ‘I’ or ‘me’.
No one can give you anything, teach you anything (apart from the usual skills required for living) and there is nowhere to go. You cannot get out of this presence (present).  You do not have to learn to be in the present. That is a mind game perpetrated by those who make a living out of the ignorance of seekers or those who indulge in a flamboyant self image.  It is all appearance only.  There is no actual seeker.  The seeker is a story about me.
All the major religions point at the oneness, the all inclusiveness.  Then they divide it up and add concepts about becoming.
There is only ever Being.
Becoming is an illusion of mind.
Yes, you were once a child. You did not become an adult through any action made by any ‘I’.  Nature appears to transform in many ways but the essence of nature never divides.
Space is the vehicle for all that appears.  Nothing can appear anywhere but in space.  Space does not change.
Space is no thing.
If you open all the senses to avail yourself of the natural state….space like awareness is the clear and present evidence.
We put concepts upon that and limit ourselves.  Then we fabricate methods and practices in order to reclaim our original wholeness.  It never truly went away.  You could not BE without it.
3 Comments
  1. ‘People’ get offended and the resistance to being challenged on their erroneous beliefs is a shabby facade. Sometimes the decks have to be cleared. The erroneous beliefs have to be challenged. Refusing to investigate one’s beliefs is an error, one that keeps one from recognising what is true. If you won’t do it for yourself, Life will step in (as it surely does) and the image of self is found to be wanting.

  2. i really love this post Gilbert. as ive indicated before. What really hits home is the opening.
    Love is like a resonance in being.
    Love is spontaneously expressing without any need of the intellect.
    That is really a great way to point to love. that really starts and ends there. From my experience, if that isn’t recognized, on that level, then it’s really impossible to hold love. or truly love. Like you say, it’s caught in images of oneself and other. and that always changes, and fails. And i love the ending,

    You cannot get to non duality from duality.
    Love of being, loving to be, is the ‘way of resonance’ with what actually is, not with what I might want it to be or not be.
    Being is. Becoming is imagination and nothing more.
    That is so sweet. and wonderful. When I first heard Bob say “its not being loving, but loving to be,” I nearly fell outta my chair. so so good and true. thank you. G x

  3. You need to get rid of the idea of ‘levels’.
    Have a look. Are there any levels if you don’t think about it?

    Yes, a rice plantation appears to have levels. The ground of Being has no levels and everything abides in equanimity.